Kasamdry – one of the many elaborate rituals of a Kashmiri Pandit wedding, is a sacramental commitment between the families of the bride and the groom to upheld their promise of the holy alliance.
How it happens?
As per the Kashmiri calendar, the pundit fixes an auspicious date and time for both the families to meet in a temple as this ceremony takes place in front of an idol. In the temple, the elders exchange flowers as a sign of happiness and celebration of marriage.
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After the gathering in the temple, the bride’s family arranges for a traditional and authentic Kashmiri cuisine for all attending the ceremony.
The eldest aunt prepares var (a special rice pudding) which is distributed among the family, friends, neighbors and relatives. This preparation takes place separately in the boy’s and girl’s house.
Traditionally post var, the girl’s family sends cash, fruits, dry fruits and a pot of nabad (lumps of sugar) to the groom’s place. Off late, the couple meet in a temple or at the groom’s house and exchange rings.
The families of the boy and girl invite their friends and relatives to their respective houses.
The groom’s maidservant goes to the bride’s house with a silver cup of cream, a ring, a pheran, tarang (the traditional turban), sacred thread and sindoor. The maid feeds the cream to the bride with a silver spoon and gives the clothes that she is supposed to dress up with for the ceremony. A similar ceremony takes place at the groom’s house too. The bride’s sister-in-law or brother-in-law go to the groom’s house for the ceremony.
A musical evening is planned separately in both the houses where traditional Kashmiri wedding songs called Wanvun are sung. Nowadays, a little bit of dance is also a part of the show.